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Asking for a Raise

Asking for a Raise

Posted in Crucial Accountability

Dear Crucial Skills, How can I convince my manager to give me the promotion and pay raise I am owed? This year I came back into mainstream office activity after resolving some personal problems. I got more and more responsibility over the course of the year and my supervisor reassured me he...


Changing Behaviour in Adult Children

Changing Behaviour in Adult Children

Posted in Crucial Conversations

Dear Crucial Skills, My daughter just turned 40 and has gained more weight than ever. Conversations about her weight gain over the years have mostly been negative, though she did actually lose weight with the help of a trainer about eight years ago. She says her schedule doesn’t allow time, but...


Kerrying On: A Christmas Gift

Kerrying On: A Christmas Gift

Posted in Kerrying On

During this holiday season, we would like to share one of our favorite holiday Kerrying On articles and invite you to watch for opportunities to help those in need. Over twenty years ago, I received the most amazing Christmas gift. Today I share it with you. It was December of 1984 and my...


3 Tips to Organize Your Life

3 Tips to Organize Your Life

Posted in Getting Things Done

Dear Crucial Skills, I have always been a list-maker and over the years this has served me pretty well. I’m getting older and I’m finding that I’m making lists over and over so I end up with multiple lists. They’re on my desk, they’re in my pockets, they’re on my phone. What can I do to...


How To Take Control of Your Overflowing Email Inbox

How To Take Control of Your Overflowing Email Inbox

Posted in Getting Things Done

Dear Crucial Skills, I’m buried in email and I can’t seem to get it under control. Emails mean calendar requests, and calendar requests mean meetings. And meetings mean less time to respond to email. It’s a vicious cycle. If I’m lucky, I scan my inbox every few hours, looking for big issues....


Get Clear with a GTD Weekly Review

Get Clear with a GTD Weekly Review

Posted in Getting Things Done

Dear Crucial Skills, My company recently sent my team through GTD Training. Learning how to capture and clarify has been beneficial, but I’m struggling with the organizing, reflecting, and reviewing. That seems to require a lot of time, and because I value productivity, well, I tend to skip...


How to Talk to a Student’s Parent in Crucial Moments

How to Talk to a Student’s Parent in Crucial Moments

Posted in Crucial Conversations

Dear Crucial Skills, I am a school principal and recently we had an incident where a student injured another student. I will be meeting with the father of the injured child, who is very angry. He feels the school has failed to protect his daughter in the past and this exacerbates the...


My Coworker Does This Annoying Little Thing . . .

My Coworker Does This Annoying Little Thing . . .

Posted in Crucial Conversations

Dear Joseph, Our offices look soundproof. But they are not. Even with the doors closed you can hear almost everything above a whisper from the adjacent office. My coworker in the office next door hums and sings very loudly. I put headphones on to try to cover it with my own music, but I can...


How to Help Someone Be More Organized and Productive

How to Help Someone Be More Organized and Productive

Posted in Getting Things Done

Dear Crucial Skills, I am loving the impact of Getting Things Done® (GTD®) on my professional life. Not only am I getting things done, but I have a vision of where I want my work to take me. At work, I feel productive, energized, and excited about the next action items I can knock out. But when...


What To Do When a Conversation Fails

What To Do When a Conversation Fails

Posted in Crucial Conversations

Dear Candace, I work at a church, and sometimes the members cause drama. Recently we received from a parent two angry emails about our children’s ministry. This parent has a reputation for getting angry, but she’s rooted in the church so probably isn’t going away. For a long time, I...


How to Talk with Your Manager About a Promotion

How to Talk with Your Manager About a Promotion

Posted in Crucial Conversations

Dear Crucial Skills, What do you say to your manager in order to move from a level two to a level three? How do you talk about career advancement and convince them you are ready for the next step? Signed, Moving On Up _____________________ Dear Moving, Oh, yes. The “level-up” conversation....


My Parents Always Correct Me, But Are They Always Correct?

My Parents Always Correct Me, But Are They Always Correct?

Posted in Crucial Conversations

Dear Joseph, My parents correct me often. The way they do it is very blunt. When they do, I feel unsafe. I have tried over and over to explain this to them, but they just tell me it’s my problem because I’m prideful. They believe they never do anything wrong. They say I don’t take...